Teens Need Help Too: 4 Signs of Depression You Really Should Not Ignore

The effects of having an alcoholic can be really hard on adults but they can be even harder on teenagers. While adults have the emotional maturity to sufficiently deal with ups and downs, teens may not have the same mechanisms in place.

When there is an alcoholic in the family, it can get pretty hairy. When teenagers are involved, they can start to exhibit a variety of issues. One of the primary ones could be depression—which is why it would be highly important to understand some common signs of depression in teens.

Signs of Depression

Stark Changes in Eating and Sleeping Habits

Depression can make people do certain things differently. It can make people suddenly change personalities and habits. For example, someone who would usually be a morning person suddenly find themselves preferring to stay up late at night. It could also manifest as someone who used to eat in moderation now prefers to binge.

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Constant Irritability or Anger

While a lot of movies or TV series like to depict teens as being moody, that isn’t exactly something that counts as their default setting—so to speak. Teens, when not going through anything stressful or traumatic, are usually inherently cheerful and happy. So if your teen suddenly exhibits constant irritability or anger, it may be a sign of depression.

Withdrawal

Happy and well-adjusted teens do not just start shutting themselves away for no good reason. So if your teen suddenly becomes withdrawn, you may need to pay a bit more attention. It is important to note that while they may withdraw from you; this does not mean that they will withdraw completely. Teens like companionship and will usually still open up to someone they truly trust.

Heightened Sensitivity to Questions or Criticism

When a teen is depressed, they tend to be highly defensive. This is predominantly due to the fact that they are often plagued with very low self-worth and a general sense of powerlessness.

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Please Remember

The symptoms are not a ‘one size fits all’ sort of deal. Different people display different symptoms. While there are some symptoms that can be quite common, it would still be important to get professional help. We highly suggest that you introduce your teen to an Alateen organization close to you. They are an organization much like us but are specialized toward the concerns of teenagers.

Has there been a teen around you that has been exhibiting any sign of depression?

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Stop Feeding Unhealthy Habits: Steps to Cut Off Codependency

One the pitfalls of human behavior is that we tend to try to be as supportive as we can when it comes to people we love. While that may seem to be a good virtue, we inadvertently fall into a pattern of codependency.

What is Codependency?

Codependency, in its strictest definition, is the over reliance on a person for support or affirmation. This is something that usually occurs because of addiction or an underlying mental issue. When experts were studying the concept of codependency, they found that this is commonly found between someone struggling with addiction and an enabling significant other, family member, or friend.

Signs

There are several signs that point to a codependent relationship. Here are a few of them:

  • Feeling of being trapped
  • Repressing voicing your thoughts out of fear of an argument
  • Inability to say no to a partner’s demands
  • Consistently making excuses or covering up a partner’s problematic behaviors

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Cutting off Codependency

There are several ways in which you can start your way toward actual healthy relationships. Here are a few steps:

Recognizing the codependent behavior

It can be quite easy to think that something you are doing “out of love” or “out of respect” would not have any negative consequences or was something that was entirely normal or even expected in a relationship. However, the trouble occurs when one cannot tell the difference between loving behavior and feeding an unhealthy set of habits.

When you recognize the existence of codependent behavior, you are well on your way to setting healthy boundaries and recovering your sense of wellness.

Choosing to challenge any self-defeating thoughts or actions

People in codependent relationships are often carrying thoughts that are often self-defeating. They believe that they should refrain from trying to change the situation because “it won’t change anything” or the partner will be angered by it.

When you choose to challenge such thoughts, decisions, or actions, you empower yourself and start to break away from the cycle of unhealthy behavior.

Please Remember

Codependency is something that is developed. This means that it is also something that can be wholly unraveled with the right decisions and set of habits. So while there are other steps that can help you break free of codependency, those would be something that you can discover with your support group or your chosen therapist.

Consider the facets of your relationships; are you in a codependent one?

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