Strength in Numbers: Why Joining a Support Group Is Important

When it comes to battling the effects of someone else’s addiction, it can be quite easy to feel like you are in a hopeless situation. It is also quite easy to fall into the incorrect belief that no one else can quite understand what you are going through. Today, we wanted to put emphasis on why joining a support group would be important for a loved one or a friend of anyone battling alcoholism.

What is a support group?

A support group is routine gathering of individuals. While many of them are led by a healthcare professional, it is also entirely possible that they are held by peers that are part of organizations. They can also either be an open group—one that allows people to just walk in and join. Or them may also be a closed one—a type of group that has a select schedule and set members.

One of the flagrant incorrect assumptions about the concept of support groups is that only the ones battling addiction will need them. Addiction is a truly terrible thing and it affects not just the addict—it also affects those who are around them.

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Why join a support group?

A support group, specifically one that is geared toward family and friends of those struggling, can be quite important. Here are a few reasons why:

Camaraderie

Whenever a person undergoes a difficult time, it can be quite easy to simply internalize the pain and the difficulty. Many of those who have been exposed or subjected to the difficulty of living with an alcoholic will often believe that others will not understand what they are going through.

A support group will immediately teach attendants that they are not alone in their troubles. Alcoholism is an addiction that afflicts many and affects the lives of millions around the world. Support groups allow individuals who are going through the same situation to meet and discuss their concerns.

Learning Useful Information

Those that hold support group meetings are often armed with a lot of truly helpful discussions about the troubles of those who have to live in a difficult situation. Discussions often involve a lot of practical information on how to build strategies that can result in better chances to obtain wellness.

Attendees can also learn from the success stories of those who were able to successfully navigate a relationship with someone who struggled with alcoholism. Support groups often have a lot of effective recommendations for literature and activities.

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Please Remember

Socializing with others going through or have gone through the same thing you presently are going through is highly valuable. Not only is the camaraderie and the information important but the hope that it provides is critical as well.

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Mental Health is Wealth: Where to Seek Help When You Need It

The general goal of anyone is to have a pleasant and uncomplicated life. So it can be quite difficult when it is the decisions of other people that end up damaging or complicating our lives. It is strange but common to have the actions of others have a toll on our emotions and quality of living.

This is very true when someone in your life is struggling with being an alcoholic. While most of the focus is on the person undergoing the addiction, those around them need just as much help as well. Being around someone undergoing addiction can really do a number on those around them. If you are such a person, you know very well what we are talking about.

Any environment that has an alcoholic in it can turn into a toxic one really fast. The addicts’ inability to stay away from the drink—using anything or saying anything that they can to get another glass can be quite detrimental to those they love—especially if violence enters the picture. If you are reading this, we understand what you are going through. We have gone through it ourselves and we know first-hand what such an environment and what such a person can do to your mental health.

If you are thinking of seeking help, it would be important for you to know where you can find it. This is what we wanted to discuss today. If you are looking for help, these are some pretty good places to find it:

Self or at Home Detox Programs

Many addicts will try this option before seeking outside help. It’s because the addict doesn’t realize how badly the addiction has taken control of them. There are some at home programs like the ones from Synergydetox.com. While we don’t know the actual results of these types of self-detox programs, we would highly recommend one of the below solutions since addiction many times requires outside help for a successful road to recovery.

Local Rehabilitation Centers

Maryland is the home of some state of the art rehabilitation centers. The mental healthcare professionals that have their practice in the area can help you by providing you the knowledge and—if necessary— the medication that you need.

Local Police Department

It is no secret that a person battling addiction can be a threat. If you feel like your personal safety or the safety of anyone else in the home is in imminent danger, do not wait. Pick up the phone and call 911. They can provide a good way for you to establish a secure space for yourself and your family.

Local Al-Anon Organization

Al-Anon is there to provide you the emotional and mental support that you will require. We and other organizations like us prioritize the friends and family members of alcoholics and help them to regain their sense of wellness.

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Please Remember

You are never alone in the struggle to get your feet back to solid footing. Help will always be available for anyone who knows where to look for it. We hope that you will utilize the options that we’ve mentioned above.

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Stop Feeding Unhealthy Habits: Steps to Cut Off Codependency

One the pitfalls of human behavior is that we tend to try to be as supportive as we can when it comes to people we love. While that may seem to be a good virtue, we inadvertently fall into a pattern of codependency.

What is Codependency?

Codependency, in its strictest definition, is the over reliance on a person for support or affirmation. This is something that usually occurs because of addiction or an underlying mental issue. When experts were studying the concept of codependency, they found that this is commonly found between someone struggling with addiction and an enabling significant other, family member, or friend.

Signs

There are several signs that point to a codependent relationship. Here are a few of them:

  • Feeling of being trapped
  • Repressing voicing your thoughts out of fear of an argument
  • Inability to say no to a partner’s demands
  • Consistently making excuses or covering up a partner’s problematic behaviors

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Cutting off Codependency

There are several ways in which you can start your way toward actual healthy relationships. Here are a few steps:

Recognizing the codependent behavior

It can be quite easy to think that something you are doing “out of love” or “out of respect” would not have any negative consequences or was something that was entirely normal or even expected in a relationship. However, the trouble occurs when one cannot tell the difference between loving behavior and feeding an unhealthy set of habits.

When you recognize the existence of codependent behavior, you are well on your way to setting healthy boundaries and recovering your sense of wellness.

Choosing to challenge any self-defeating thoughts or actions

People in codependent relationships are often carrying thoughts that are often self-defeating. They believe that they should refrain from trying to change the situation because “it won’t change anything” or the partner will be angered by it.

When you choose to challenge such thoughts, decisions, or actions, you empower yourself and start to break away from the cycle of unhealthy behavior.

Please Remember

Codependency is something that is developed. This means that it is also something that can be wholly unraveled with the right decisions and set of habits. So while there are other steps that can help you break free of codependency, those would be something that you can discover with your support group or your chosen therapist.

Consider the facets of your relationships; are you in a codependent one?

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You Need Help, Too: Coping With an Alcoholic in the Family

Having a problematic alcoholic in the family is never an easy scenario. More often than not, it is the family members that suffer the most as they are predominantly manipulated and affected by the alcoholic’s addiction. It can be extremely difficult to live with someone who is in the midst of alcoholism.

Even if the addict gets better, the emotional and in extreme cases physical scars can be quite difficult to get over. So we’re speaking directly to anyone who has ever had an alcoholic in their life. There are a few universal truths that you need to remember about coping with an alcoholic:

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It’s Okay to Admit You Were Manipulated

One of the biggest issues that those who continue to have alcoholics in their lives is living with the fact that they have been and will continue to be manipulated. A very common attribute of alcoholics or anyone that suffers with addiction is that they are master manipulators.

The very love and goodwill bestowed upon them by friends and family members will be turned into weapons that will use time and time again. They will say and do anything to get their next hit. It is never easy to admit that your judgment and emotions were used and manipulated.

It’s Okay to Admit You Feel Powerless

Having to navigate through the often mercurial temper of someone with alcohol addiction can really chip away at your self-confidence. A lot of family members and friends of alcoholics often struggle with rediscovering the strength to regain the control over their relationship with the alcoholic.

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Please Remember

You do not need to tackle this alone. One of the best things that you can do for yourself and even the troublesome person in your life is to seek help. Your capacity to help them goes beyond just saying ‘no’ to disruptive behavior. If you want to truly be helpful and cope with the issues present in your life, there needs to be stability and peace on your part.

What sort of help do you think you need?

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Getting Started: Just What Exactly Is Al-Anon?

Hello and welcome to Al-Anon. We’re very glad to have you here with us. Today, we wanted to provide you with a better idea of what you can come to expect from this site and what we aim to achieve with every new discussion.

The concepts of addiction and recovery have vastly been centered on the person undergoing the struggle. Being addicted to alcohol is extremely difficult and we do believe that they need to get sufficient help. However, it is not just the addict that is affected by their bad decisions and their struggles.

In a home environment where there exists an alcoholic, the addiction affects everyone in that environment. While a majority of the emphasis was for the addict and not so much their friends or families. Recovery programs often neglected to mention how the addiction would affect the other people in the life of the addict. It was only in the recent couple of decades that healthcare professionals also considered that the people in the immediate sphere of the alcoholic. This is what we aim to help with.

What Can You Expect From Al-Anon?

In this website and through this organization, will be touching on critical points for those who presently or have previously have had an alcoholic in their life. We will be discussing topics like:

Mental Health

Being around a troubled person can be extremely trying and turns rather toxic. We are going to explore ways for friends and family members of alcoholic to care for their mental health.

Effective Support

A person’s journey to sobriety is not something that they do alone. So we also want to discuss ways to effectively become a positive support for each other and for the one who is trying to achieve sobriety.

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Please Remember

Al-Anon is here to help you. We believe that in order for us to effectively help others, we need to sufficiently help ourselves first. After all, we cannot give something that we do not have. If we want a loved one to successfully achieve their wellness, we need to be at that level of wellness as well.

What would you like for Al-Anon to do for you?

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