Stop Feeding Unhealthy Habits: Steps to Cut Off Codependency

One the pitfalls of human behavior is that we tend to try to be as supportive as we can when it comes to people we love. While that may seem to be a good virtue, we inadvertently fall into a pattern of codependency.

What is Codependency?

Codependency, in its strictest definition, is the over reliance on a person for support or affirmation. This is something that usually occurs because of addiction or an underlying mental issue. When experts were studying the concept of codependency, they found that this is commonly found between someone struggling with addiction and an enabling significant other, family member, or friend.

Signs

There are several signs that point to a codependent relationship. Here are a few of them:

  • Feeling of being trapped
  • Repressing voicing your thoughts out of fear of an argument
  • Inability to say no to a partner’s demands
  • Consistently making excuses or covering up a partner’s problematic behaviors

img3 - Stop Feeding Unhealthy Habits: Steps to Cut Off Codependency

Cutting off Codependency

There are several ways in which you can start your way toward actual healthy relationships. Here are a few steps:

Recognizing the codependent behavior

It can be quite easy to think that something you are doing “out of love” or “out of respect” would not have any negative consequences or was something that was entirely normal or even expected in a relationship. However, the trouble occurs when one cannot tell the difference between loving behavior and feeding an unhealthy set of habits.

When you recognize the existence of codependent behavior, you are well on your way to setting healthy boundaries and recovering your sense of wellness.

Choosing to challenge any self-defeating thoughts or actions

People in codependent relationships are often carrying thoughts that are often self-defeating. They believe that they should refrain from trying to change the situation because “it won’t change anything” or the partner will be angered by it.

When you choose to challenge such thoughts, decisions, or actions, you empower yourself and start to break away from the cycle of unhealthy behavior.

Please Remember

Codependency is something that is developed. This means that it is also something that can be wholly unraveled with the right decisions and set of habits. So while there are other steps that can help you break free of codependency, those would be something that you can discover with your support group or your chosen therapist.

Consider the facets of your relationships; are you in a codependent one?

Read more

You Need Help, Too: Coping With an Alcoholic in the Family

Having a problematic alcoholic in the family is never an easy scenario. More often than not, it is the family members that suffer the most as they are predominantly manipulated and affected by the alcoholic’s addiction. It can be extremely difficult to live with someone who is in the midst of alcoholism.

Even if the addict gets better, the emotional and in extreme cases physical scars can be quite difficult to get over. So we’re speaking directly to anyone who has ever had an alcoholic in their life. There are a few universal truths that you need to remember about coping with an alcoholic:

dr2 - You Need Help, Too: Coping With an Alcoholic in the Family

It’s Okay to Admit You Were Manipulated

One of the biggest issues that those who continue to have alcoholics in their lives is living with the fact that they have been and will continue to be manipulated. A very common attribute of alcoholics or anyone that suffers with addiction is that they are master manipulators.

The very love and goodwill bestowed upon them by friends and family members will be turned into weapons that will use time and time again. They will say and do anything to get their next hit. It is never easy to admit that your judgment and emotions were used and manipulated.

It’s Okay to Admit You Feel Powerless

Having to navigate through the often mercurial temper of someone with alcohol addiction can really chip away at your self-confidence. A lot of family members and friends of alcoholics often struggle with rediscovering the strength to regain the control over their relationship with the alcoholic.

dr1 - You Need Help, Too: Coping With an Alcoholic in the Family

Please Remember

You do not need to tackle this alone. One of the best things that you can do for yourself and even the troublesome person in your life is to seek help. Your capacity to help them goes beyond just saying ‘no’ to disruptive behavior. If you want to truly be helpful and cope with the issues present in your life, there needs to be stability and peace on your part.

What sort of help do you think you need?

Read more

Getting Started: Just What Exactly Is Al-Anon?

Hello and welcome to Al-Anon. We’re very glad to have you here with us. Today, we wanted to provide you with a better idea of what you can come to expect from this site and what we aim to achieve with every new discussion.

The concepts of addiction and recovery have vastly been centered on the person undergoing the struggle. Being addicted to alcohol is extremely difficult and we do believe that they need to get sufficient help. However, it is not just the addict that is affected by their bad decisions and their struggles.

In a home environment where there exists an alcoholic, the addiction affects everyone in that environment. While a majority of the emphasis was for the addict and not so much their friends or families. Recovery programs often neglected to mention how the addiction would affect the other people in the life of the addict. It was only in the recent couple of decades that healthcare professionals also considered that the people in the immediate sphere of the alcoholic. This is what we aim to help with.

What Can You Expect From Al-Anon?

In this website and through this organization, will be touching on critical points for those who presently or have previously have had an alcoholic in their life. We will be discussing topics like:

Mental Health

Being around a troubled person can be extremely trying and turns rather toxic. We are going to explore ways for friends and family members of alcoholic to care for their mental health.

Effective Support

A person’s journey to sobriety is not something that they do alone. So we also want to discuss ways to effectively become a positive support for each other and for the one who is trying to achieve sobriety.

img - Getting Started: Just What Exactly Is Al-Anon?

Please Remember

Al-Anon is here to help you. We believe that in order for us to effectively help others, we need to sufficiently help ourselves first. After all, we cannot give something that we do not have. If we want a loved one to successfully achieve their wellness, we need to be at that level of wellness as well.

What would you like for Al-Anon to do for you?

Read more