Teens Living with Alcoholism

Many people question whether or not a parent or guardian has a drinking problem. Many also question whether or not their own lives have been negatively impacted by the drinking. If someone you care for has, or has had, a drinking problem, the following questions will help you determine whether Alateen can help.

  1. Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
  2. Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care?
  3. Do you feel nobody really loves you or cares what happens to you?
  4. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking or what's happening in your home?
  5. Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?
  6. Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
  7. Has someone's drinking upset you?
  8. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking or others' reactions to the drinking?
  9. Are you afraid to speak up sometimes for fear it will set off a drinking bout or start another fight?
  10. Do you think the drinker's behavior is caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
  11. Do you make threats such as, "If you don't stop drinking and fighting, I'll run away"?
  12. Do you make promises about behavior, such as, "I'll get better grades," "go to church," or "keep my room clean" in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting stop?
  13. Do you feel that if your mom or dad loved you, she or he would stop drinking?
  14. Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare your parents into saying "I'm sorry," or "I love you"?
  15. Do you or your family have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
  16. Are mealtimes frequently stressful or delayed because of drinking or fighting?
  17. Have you considered calling the police because of the abusive behavior in your home?
  18. Have you refused dates because your date may find out about the drinking or fighting?
  19. Do you think your problems would be solved if the drinking stopped?
  20. Do you ever treat people (teachers, schoolmates, teammates, etc.) unjustly because you are angry at someone else for drinking too much?

If you answer "YES" to any of these questions, you may find help in Alateen. Sometimes those we care about who have a drinking problem may find many ways to cover up what is really happening. But children in alcoholic families can certainly tell when something is wrong, when things have shifted so much within their environments, that their whole life feels upside-down. Try not to be too discouraged -- there is help in Alateen!

What To Do Next?

  1. Find an Alateen Meeting near you
  2. Begin on the road to recovery!

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