Having a problematic alcoholic in the family is never an easy scenario. More often than not, it is the family members that suffer the most as they are predominantly manipulated and affected by the alcoholic’s addiction. It can be extremely difficult to live with someone who is in the midst of alcoholism.
Even if the addict gets better, the emotional and in extreme cases physical scars can be quite difficult to get over. So we’re speaking directly to anyone who has ever had an alcoholic in their life. There are a few universal truths that you need to remember about coping with an alcoholic:
It’s Okay to Admit You Were Manipulated
One of the biggest issues that those who continue to have alcoholics in their lives is living with the fact that they have been and will continue to be manipulated. A very common attribute of alcoholics or anyone that suffers with addiction is that they are master manipulators.
The very love and goodwill bestowed upon them by friends and family members will be turned into weapons that will use time and time again. They will say and do anything to get their next hit. It is never easy to admit that your judgment and emotions were used and manipulated.
It’s Okay to Admit You Feel Powerless
Having to navigate through the often mercurial temper of someone with alcohol addiction can really chip away at your self-confidence. A lot of family members and friends of alcoholics often struggle with rediscovering the strength to regain the control over their relationship with the alcoholic.
You do not need to tackle this alone. One of the best things that you can do for yourself and even the troublesome person in your life is to seek help. Your capacity to help them goes beyond just saying ‘no’ to disruptive behavior. If you want to truly be helpful and cope with the issues present in your life, there needs to be stability and peace on your part.
What sort of help do you think you need?